In defence of skimpy swimwear for men

Sacha Baron Cohen in Borat was another believer in skimpy togs for men.

Sacha Baron Cohen in Borat was another believer in skimpy togs for men.

If you use any form of social media, you’ve probably already seen those photographs of two young men wearing some seriously skimpy swimwear on a beach in southern Spain. The pictures have spent the past couple of weeks being circulated to raucous laughter. Men! In half-thongs! On the beach!

The supposedly offensive contraptions were spied on Bobby Cole Norris and Harry Derbridge as they filmed scenes for British reality show The Only Way Is Essex. In brief (boom tish etc), the scanties look like teeny, tiny, half-finished speedos, or a what might pass as a tiny doll’s purse. The bathing suit seems to defy all laws of physics - the package goes in the pocket while a thin strap slings round the back and and clings on for dear life. Needless to say, a fair amount of ... grooming ... is required to really pull the whole look off.

When I first saw the images, I balked along with everyone else. Where did it all go? How did it stay up? Why is this on my computer screen? But as the days passed and person after person reposted, I started to feel a little differently about them. Skimpy slings (or ‘schlong thongs’ as Norris jokingly refers to them) leave very little to the imagination, which is an unusual position for most men to be in. Cast so wholly and unabashedly under the gaze typically reserved for women, I started to think that the look was - dare I say it - kind of sexy.

The "schlong thong" as demonstrated by The Only Way is Essex stars Bobby Cole Norris and Harry Derbridge.

The "schlong thong" as demonstrated by The Only Way is Essex stars Bobby Cole Norris and Harry Derbridge.

It’s an unpopular view. Most people I’ve spoken to casually about the images reject them on sight. While individual explanations vary, they all seem to boil down to one essential idea - that the contraptions are ridiculous, effete and somehow altogether too feminine to be considered attractive. ‘Real men’ are apparently above engaging in such silly vanity exercises. 

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Whether or not unconscious, there’s a disturbing element of homophobia and misogyny mixed up in the criticism. Plucking, waxing, primping and preening are for women and sissies, not red blooded heterosexual males whose bodies are not traditionally subjected to the scrutiny and criticism of an external judge. And I suspect there’s a degree of discomfort at witnessing two men (even ones who are openly gay, as Norris and Derbridge are) embrace the idea of themselves as passive objects of desire rather than active pursuers.  

Mark Simpson (the man who coined the term ‘metrosexual’ back in 1994) recently wrote that man’s 21st century evolution is that of the ‘spornosexual’, a coalignment “where sport got into bed with porn while Mr Armani took pictures”. But although 20 years have passed, the sneering criticisms which plagued initial understandings of ‘metrosexuality’ have not gone away. As Simpson writes here, “Just as male homosexuality was still stigmatised and partly criminalised back then, the male desire to be desired – the self-regarding heart of metrosexuality – was scorned by many. Narcissism was seen as being essentially feminine, or Wildean – and look what happened to him. The trials of Oscar Wilde, the last dandy, at the end of the 19th Century helped stamp a Victorian morality over much of the 20th century. Male vanity was at best womanish – at worst, perverted.”

In this casually homophobic article in the UK’s Telegraph, Louisa Peacock writes with horrified glee about the Norris and Derbridge flaunting their scantily clad bodies all over Marbella. “I'm still struggling to find any sentence that can justifiably excuse Bobby and Harry's half-thongs...If this is what some men think makes them look sexy, then we're all doomed.”

Leaving aside for a moment the obnoxious body shaming that would be justifiably howled down had this been an article about women, Peacock has a curiously narrow view of what constitutes attraction and titillation. She asks, somewhat rhetorically, to be shown any woman who would find this ‘hot’. Yet it’s clear from her tone that such a thing is impossible. Why? Because heterosexual women aren’t visual? Because we can’t appreciate or superficially lust after a beautiful body in the same way that men can? Because we are cerebral and not tactile?

Like so many others, Peacock seems to hold the view that it is the domain of women to present themselves for regular objectification and scrutiny. And yet, when men do these same things, they are charged with being weak, vain, gay, self absorbed, unmanly, ridiculous. It’s no coincidence that the things that are just about expected behaviour in women are considered emasculating when taken up by men, and policed equally by everyone.

So I’ll say it. I like the dick slings. I think they’re playful and sexy and I like the confidence with which they’re worn. And maybe that’s what’s really offensive to some people. That despite all the sexism and homophobia that erupts when men behave in ways typically assumed to be feminine, there are some who’ll continue to do it anyway. Who knows, maybe it’s because they hold the radical view that behaving ‘like a woman’ isn’t actually something to be ashamed of.

25 comments

  • So we can expect an apology to Tony Abbott for all the jokes about wearing budgie smugglers or lycra gear? I'm certainly looking forward to reading that article!

    Commenter
    Hurrow
    Date and time
    June 24, 2014, 8:13AM
    • I think you missed the point here... the last time I checked Tony Abbott finds homosexuality... what's the word he used... 'confronting'... he is called, even by his own side of politics as sexist and to the GLBT community, speaking for myself, he is someone who has shown all the hallmarks of what Clementine was talking about when it comes to 'sexism and homophobia'... there are a few other things I think, but I am pretty sure I won't get published then.

      When our Prime Minister comes out in support of the GLBT community, legalises same sex marriage and supports the rights of young people to have access to secular counsellors in schools... I am certain Clem will do an article mentioning how great tony looks in his marching boy speedos.. oh the irony...

      Until then.. don't get your hopes up.

      Thanks Clementine... love reading your articles!

      Commenter
      cuteclaudia
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 9:54AM
    • CuteClaudia,
      So someone's political persuasion is a defining factor in their physical attractiveness whilst wearing swimwear?
      Interesting.

      Commenter
      Freddie Frog
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 11:20AM
    • I disagree almost completely with Tony Abbott, my views are diametrically opposed. I look forward to him being removed from office with glee. However Hurrow is right, you can't be hypocritical. Mocking his use of speedos is body or dress shaming pure and simple. If you wouldn't do it to a woman on the beach you can't do it to Tony, no matter how much of a douche canoe he is. Stick to the issues, god knows there are enough of them without trying to play the man. I proudly wear Aussie Bum (gay brand of speedo-like swimwear) to the beach and although I prefer the "tiny shorts" style not speedos, and think this weird thong is just as bad as Aussie Bum's chapless tiny shorts in terms of unnecessary skin, I certainly don't complain about Wicked Weasel swimwear on women which depending on the style is lucky to even cover the labia so I don't begrudge anyone wearing whatever they want so long as it's legal and anyone else finding that as attractive as I do Wicked Weasel on women.. I do tend to think a bit of the feminist prism in the article is precisely because gay men tend to wear things like the article is based around. I'm sure if someone like Joe Manganiello wore it far less women would be complaining about it and it would probably only cement his alpha status given his probable ability to pull it off. (yeah that's right TrueBlood is back on.)

      Commenter
      andrew
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 11:37AM
    • Why would I be expected to write an apology to Tony Abbott when I've never commented on his 'budgie smugglers'?

      Commenter
      Clementine Ford
      Location
      Melbourne
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 1:05PM
    • I’m not entirely sure what Clem’s point is. She starts out by presumably dismissing the notion that “women can’t appreciate or superficially lust after a beautiful body in the same way that men can?”, although I always thought feminists were against objectification. Then she talks about how men who present themselves for regular objectification and scrutiny are charged with being weak, vain, gay, self absorbed, unmanly, ridiculous. I mean Rafael Nadal really copped a hammering for those underwear ads right? David Beckham seems to have become a global brand somehow. If the young guys at my gym with shaved/waxed torsos, overstyled hair etc are anything to go by then the thesis that presenting yourself for regular objectification and scrutiny is considered emasculating and enforced by everyone doesn’t seem to be holding up too well.

      I ended up just assuming the point was that you should be able to wear what you want without being judged for it. In which case presumably there is nothing wrong with wearing sports specific gear, particularly when doing that sport, and that ridiculing someone for it as many feminists have is no less sexist than commenting on our former PMs appearance which was widely condemned by many of the same feminists.

      Commenter
      Hurrow
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 1:26PM
    • Apologies in that case Clementine, I must have confused you with someone else.

      Commenter
      Hurrow
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 2:27PM
  • "Disk slings...playful and sexy...I like the confidence with which they’re worn."

    Well Clementine, you are entitled to your opinion.
    I think if those two specimens were game to wear those ridiculous, non-functional things (I dare not call them bathers, togs, swimmers) on a Melbourne bay beach:

    i) I would question their view of reality.

    ii) I would suggest that they wear FAST running footwear.

    iii) I would suggest they get a move on.

    What a couple of twerps! I am sure they are having the last laugh, though. Foisting this caper on the world and being taken seriously. Hahahahaha.

    Commenter
    GonePhishing
    Location
    rabbit hole (sth)
    Date and time
    June 24, 2014, 9:44AM
    • hmmm, it's not a look that particularly appeals to me, but unlike you I wouldn't advocate that they deserve to be beaten up (as inferred from your "they better wear FAST footwear" comment).

      Commenter
      AmyG
      Date and time
      June 24, 2014, 10:58AM
  • Trust you to read way too much into what could likely turn out to be a joke!

    Commenter
    Wilson
    Date and time
    June 24, 2014, 9:53AM

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