Serena Williams. Photo: Getty
Serena Williams continues to be a trailblazer. In this week just gone, the tennis great demonstrated it's not only male sportspeople who sporadically act like lunkheads.
As an aside during an interview with Rolling Stone, the world No. 1 women's singles player, qualified nail technician and part-owner of the Miami Dolphins remarked, of a notorious Ohio rape case, that the 16-year-old victim ''shouldn't have put herself in that position''.
As you would imagine, an unholy uproar ensued, during which Williams, who is as well-known for her non-apology apologies as she is for her role as an occasional equal-opportunity boofhead, slouched out to apologise to the girl's parents for ''what I supposedly said''.
Nigella Lawson. Photo: Simon O'Dwyer
For the girl at the centre of the Ohio case, who was hauled drunk and unconscious from party to party by a couple of footballers who photographed themselves molesting her and made jokes about urinating on her, Williams' comments weren't anything especially new - the small town in which the rapes occurred was deeply divided over the crime. Some felt the girl had invited trouble before the event and caused trouble after it for the perpetrators, both footballers of talent whose lives are pretty much ruined.
Physical and sexual assault against women is - globally - a common event. In a report released on Friday, based on interviews with 24,000 women, the World Health Organisation concluded that more than a third of all women will be physically or sexually abused at some point, usually by someone they know.
What is truly unusual about these crimes, though, is the extent to which, once committed, they tend to produce a rather unique secondary problem for the victim.
A woman assaulted by someone known to her is, in many cases, assaulted again by conflicting expectations. There is the expectation from the offender that she will forgive him/lighten up/stop provoking him. And there is the expectation from others that she will speak out/press charges/stand up for herself and victims everywhere.
How cosmically unfair it is that this double jeopardy - whatever she does will earn her contempt, or disappointment, or retribution from someone - occurs precisely when the victim is least able to cope with it, and might feel entitled, understandably, to a bout of trauma-induced irrationality or deep self-pity.
The expectations of others are often well-meaning.
When Melbourne radio presenter Dee Dee Dunleavy wrote, for instance, a stirring blog post on Monday about Nigella Lawson's apparent assault at the hands of her husband outside a London restaurant, she meant well.
''If you want us to buy your books and watch your shows on how to run our kitchens, then we need you to make a stand on domestic violence,'' Dunleavy instructed Lawson, in an open letter that has attracted substantial coverage in British media, already on red alert for Aussie DJ atrocities.
And in some ways Dunleavy is, of course, correct: Lawson is in an extraordinarily influential position, not only to confirm that physical confrontation can occur in any marriage, but to provide an inspirational example on how best to proceed when it does.
And if Lawson stays mum, no doubt it won't just be Dunleavy who is disappointed. In Britain, where the photographs of Charles Saatchi grabbing his celebrity chef wife's throat were first published, the quest for an explanation from the apparent throttler has been more than matched by the ferocity of the need for a response from the throttlee.
But what did Lawson ever do to invite this responsibility?
What victim of bag-snatch, arson, burglary or delinquent driving ever has to deal with this? This fierce expectation that - having suffered the offence itself - the target should then feel obliged to respond in the right way?
In the case of sexual assault, victims are, of course, often subjected to critique - explicit or implicit - of their behaviour before the offence, as well as after it.
Were they too drunk? Too provocatively clad? Too much of a sex worker?
Tom Meagher, who somehow surfaced through his grief and horror on Wednesday to speak about his late wife, Jill, after Adrian Bayley was sentenced for her rape and murder, reflected that most of Bayley's myriad prior convictions had been for raping prostitutes.
''I'll never be convinced that that had nothing to do with the leniency of his sentence,'' he told 7.30's Louise Milligan.
''[What that] says to people like Bayley is not 'don't rape', but 'careful who you rape'.''
What Meagher makes clear - with the strength and cogency that some victims of crime can manage, and others can't - is that culpability for rape and violence should, by definition, be a strictly limited affair.
And a third of the world's women would no doubt quietly agree.
Annabel Crabb is the host of Kitchen Cabinet, which returns to ABC1 from July 2. She tweets as @annabelcrabb