There are seven ways to divorce-proof your marriage.
Or is it in ten? Or five? Or perhaps it’s eight.
Whatever the number, economist Enrico Moretti from the University of California Berkeley has added another to the list: make sure your firstborn is a boy.
In a startling interview on Freakonomics Radio, Professor Moretti revealed that in marriages where the firstborn is a boy, there is less chance of the husband leaving the marriage.
‘Parents who have firstborn girls are significantly more likely to be divorced and parents who have firstborn boys are significantly more likely to stay together,’ he said.
No, this interview was not recorded a hundred years ago and the research sample did not come exclusively from the Taliban and the Saudi royals.
The interview was conducted just two weeks ago and Professor Moretti’s research is based, among other things, on US census data.
‘Fathers are significantly less likely to be living with their children if they have daughters rather than sons. This overall effect is fairly large…We estimate that over a 10 year period that accounts for about 50 thousand firstborn daughters [in the US] who are living without their fathers.’
Not only are dads less likely to stick around if the nursery is painted pink. If the new parents aren’t married, they are less likely to marry if they have a daughter rather than a son.
‘The gender of the kid affects the probability of shotgun marriages’ said Professor Moretti. ‘In particular, we found that for parents who are not married upon conception of the kid, those who learn that their future child will be a boy are more likely to marry by the time of delivery, compared to parents who learn that their future child will be a girl.’
The economic impacts of this gender bias aren’t a trifling matter. Professor Moretti estimates that ‘For children in families with an absent father due to a firstborn daughter, family income is reduced by about 50 per cent.’
Fathers are also less likely to seek custody of daughters rather than sons.
The preference for a boy is so strong that in families with a firstborn daughter the probability of trying for a second child is significantly higher.
‘Families whose firstborn is a boy seem to feel less of a need [to have another child] related to families whose first born is a daughter,’ Moretti said.
Before we assume that these statistics indicate that parents value boys more than girls, it’s possible that what has been termed as ‘the daughter affect’ is not caused by a gender bias. It may be that fathers believe that having a man around is more important for boys than it is for girls, and therefore they stay because they think they are needed as a role model.
But this may be an overly generous explanation, particularly in light of a 2011 Gallop poll that revealed that American’s prefer boys.
When asked, ‘Suppose you could only have one child, would you prefer that it be a boy or a girl?’ 40 per cent of respondents preferred a boy. Twenty-eight per cent of the respondents said that preferred a girl, while just over a quarter — 26 per cent — said it didn’t matter.
And this preference was mostly driven by men. When women were asked if they would like to have a boy or a girl their preferences were evenly split.
The preference for boys has not changed since the Gallop poll was originally conducted back in 1941.
While Moretti concedes that there are many factors that determine divorce or marital stability, the fact that the child’s gender is one of them shows a deep-seated cultural bias that, from the moment of conception, continues to value boys more than girls.
Kasey Edwards is the best-selling author of 4 books 30-Something and Over It, 30-Something and The Clock is Ticking, OMG! That's Not My Husband, and OMG! That's Not My Child. www.kaseyedwards.com