Parenting and Families

Parenting expectations

Two words I hated hearing as a new mum

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NATALIE REILLY And what they tell us about the way we view parenting.

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Honey, I disinherited the kids

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Helen Kirwan-Taylor Some rich kids won't be getting the windfall they expected. But is closing the Mum & Dad Bank such a good idea?

Down syndrome

Why I kept my baby after finding out he had Down syndrome

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Elizabeth Schiltz "Though people do not ask aloud, you can see the question in their eyes: ‘If you knew, why did you have the baby?’"

Performance parenting

Judging – and being judged on – the way we parent in public

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ANDIE FOX How parenting practices are being bound by opportunity and culture.

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The question we need to stop asking mothers: "When will you have another child?"

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Laura Jackel "Most people ask out of curiosity and not animosity, but it doesn’t stop me feeling irritated by its tone - that by only having one, we are somehow not ‘finished’ as a family."

Youtube ratings

Why age classifications on music videos are a good idea

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PAUL CHAI Any parent that's watched the Anaconda film clip with a young person is going to nod their head.

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#NoKidsPolicy

#NoKidsPolicy how a hashtag changed the way the media treat children

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SARAH MACDONALD On consent, permission, control and the celebrity mum.

What's in a name

Why I don't call my daughter 'Princess'

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CHRISTOPHER SCANLON When a pet name says so much more than tiara, big hair and sparkly dress.

Asker’s Syndrome

Do you suffer from Asker’s Syndrome?

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KASEY EDWARDS It's a little understood, but surprisingly common condition that afflicts women from all walks of life.

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Community longing

I miss the village I never had: it's what's missing from modern parenting

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Bunmi Laditan I can tell from your curious glance and shy smile that you miss it, too.

The lie women are told about breastfeeding and weightloss

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KASEY EDWARDS And how it sets new mothers up to feel like failures.

Stay-at-home mums face barriers returning to the workforce

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JACQUELINE MALEY Most Australian mothers go back to work when their children are still young. But what is it like when they get there?

I was kicked out of an art gallery for breastfeeding

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KATE FRIDKIS "I would like to feed my baby without giving the impression that I'm doing something scandalous."

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Parenting

Things no one tells you about single parenthood

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ANDIE FOX Including what it's like to have an ex you can't move on from.

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Baby Gammy

What Baby Gammy's story teaches us about commercial surrogacy

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SARAH MACDONALD The trouble with calling out 'villains' in the baby making business.

Real life

Are you more stressed at home than at work?

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PAUL CHAI According to a new study, this is a thing now.

Real life

Exposed by my children for what I really look like

Author and stay-at-home mother of two, Bridgette White.

Bridgette White Flipping through the pictures on my phone, I see it. My first reaction is shock. Who took this hideous picture of me?

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'Good girl'

Why people pleasers grow up to become pushovers

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Lauren Henderson The effects of being a Good Girl are far-reaching, personally and publicly.

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Parenting

Anxious parents aren't bad parents

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SONJA EBBELS Why we shouldn't worry so much about our children inheriting our anxieties.

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The 10 year gap

Yumi Stynes: Giving birth after a decade's break

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Yumi Stynes After a long break, Yumi Stynes gets a reminder of the pain – and the pleasure – of birth.

Lone male

I have daughters and I don’t want you to feel sorry for me

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CHRISTOPHER SCANLON Five commiseration clichés you get for being the 'only male in the house'.

Home truths

The one parenting rule everyone should break

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Beth Woolsey What if what we've always been told about the key to good parenting is wrong?

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Fertility panic

Fertility panic and the 30 plus woman

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Claire Moulds Claire Moulds takes a look at the panic-mongering around women aged 35-plus who have not yet had children.

Raising daughters

Why raising 'pleasers' is screwing up our girls

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Anea Bogue The desire to please leaves many girls willing to relinquish their own unique and personal desires, passions and talents, all of which are fundamental aspects of her identity.

In praise of partnerless holidays

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ANDIE FOX Andie Fox on the magic of blending families and group parenting on a partnerless retreat.

The cost of kids

How much does it actually cost to have a child?

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Laura Shin A no BS guide to the biggest 'investment' of your life.

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Report jargon

I don't understand my children's school reports

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PAUL CHAI Paul Chai has had enough of the corporate speak and 'compliment sandwich'.

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Parental guilt

A note to my children's future therapist

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ANDIE FOX Here is my side of the story. In case that day shall come.

6 ways our fears around sex are damaging our girls

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Anea Bogue If girls feel their parents' fear, she will naturally make associations between her sexual desires and fear.

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The toughest rejection?

When your child chooses to live with your ex

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Paul Mitchell Now that Paul Mitchell's daughter has chosen to live with his ex, he wonders if he'll ever get over her absence.

The bath photo that got this mum banned from Facebook

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Tim Barlass It's a picture most parents would cherish. You can almost hear mum saying: "Here they are, they loved that first bubble bath together. We couldn't get them out."

Like a girl

The advertising campaign that will make you proud to run 'like a girl'

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T.L. Stanley It’s time to flip that tired old phrase on its head, according to this 'Always Maxi Pad' advertisement.

Going viral

Powerful advertisement reminds us what happens when girls are always told they're pretty

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Effie Mann A powerful US advertisement has highlighted the impact of gender stereotyping on young women.

Mum talk

A mum's guide to talking with childless friends

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KATE FRIDKIS The choice to not ever have kids is a world of difference from parenthood.

Parental pride

It's okay to brag about your kids

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SARAH MACDONALD Life with a child is a triumph of hope and a tonne of struggle. Celebrate while you can.

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Real life

I fell pregnant after my husband passed away

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Erin O'Dwyer Although Katie Elfar's husband was no longer with her, having a baby using his frozen sperm was the best decision she ever made.

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When strict uniform policies become a 'monumental waste of time'

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Cathy Sherry A public high school student was prevented from attending an HSC English study day because she had dyed her hair pink. The school claimed that the dye was contrary to the uniform policy. The president of the school’s Parents and Citizens Association said the ban was an attempt to ‘‘mimic private school standards’’.

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Fighting against dress code sexism at school

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ANDIE FOX To both sexualise and silence teenage girls is a terribly dangerous combination.

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Pre-crastination

Are you a victim of 'pre-crastination?'

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SARAH MACDONALD Procrastination's evil twin is probably making you just as inefficient.

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Parenting myths

The lies we tell each other about childcare

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Marisa Black Marisa Black was deeply conflicted about childcare – until a backward glance put her mind at ease.

New book

Facing the onslaught of maternal intimacy

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ANDIE FOX We need to see address child-rearing in terms of intimacy rather than a series of developmental stages.

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Parenting

We need to talk to children about race

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Lindy Alexander Why telling your child “everyone’s equal” is not enough.

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Why kids lie

When Your child is a natural-born liar

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Melinda Wenner Moyer When kids lie, it’s not a sign that they’re on the road to delinquency.

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The end of the stay at home mum

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SARAH MACDONALD Should we mourn or celebrate her dwindling tribe?

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Parenting gripe

Things all parents should stop doing, now

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PAUL CHAI "As parents we are just a ragtag bunch but there are a few of you who are really letting the side down, and we need to talk."

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New motherhood

An apology to all the mums I used to hate

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KATE FRIDKIS Kate Fridkis on crossing the not-so-wide divide between young woman and young woman with a baby.

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Ten things I learned travelling with kids

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DOM KNIGHT Dom Knight realises parenting is really hard, and parenting while travelling is harder still.

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Child-free experts

The fine art of writing about parenting

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Nathan Jolly *When you don't have any children

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Parenting as therapy

Can you protect your children from living your mistakes?

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ANDIE FOX Andie Fox on the fraught practice of using parenting as therapy.

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Awkward parenting moments

Why I won't give my teens the 'sex talk'

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SARAH MACDONALD It’s the sex information night at our local public school this week. But here's why my kids won't be going.

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Has mother's guilt become a status symbol?

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Jacinta Tynan Jacinta Tynan on why mothers need to give themselves a break.

Yumi Stynes on round two of having children

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Who on earth would want a baby 10 years after the last one? We do, says pregnant mother-of-two Yumi Stynes.

Grieving on mother's day

A message to the motherless on this day

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CLEMENTINE FORD Clementine Ford: "In the years since my mother’s death, I have often felt like a weightless balloon".

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When your transgender child comes out

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Nicola Petersen The practical changes a family must make following gender transition.

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No reason to panic about teens, sex and technology, says new study

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JILL STARK A comprehensive study argues there is no need to panic about the intersection of teenagers, sexual behaviour and technology, writes Jill Stark.

Is having a baby really worth it?

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Caroline Beaulieu Having a baby is like losing your leg and winning the lottery.

Inside the world of mother's group friendships

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ANDIE FOX The intense friendship circles where women came to know each other better their partners did.

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What to do with a child who hates sports

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SARAH MACDONALD What if your kid hates whistles, coaches and sponsored uniforms? Should you really force them to change?

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Fighting back

A letter to the troll who called my son ugly

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Megan Davies Mennes Since I started blogging about my son Quinn and his disability, I knew this day would come.

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