Parenting and Families

What I learned in my year as a stay at home dad

"I'm no stranger to children; I'm a consultant paediatrician with over 13 years of training, but parenting and households were largely unexplored territory."

Chris Elliot   I'm no stranger to children; I'm a consultant paediatrician. And yet, this is what happened.

Pet Rescue

This kid escaped domestic violence, then helped build a pet shelter so his cat could too

Robert and Jennifer Pressler reunited with their (super) cat, Clark Kent.

Jenny Noyes   Because furry family members need and deserve protection too.

Shame School

This mum fought a sexist pool party dress code at her son's school and won

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Jenny Noyes   Jennifer Smith was rightly outraged when she saw this on the permission slip: "All girls must wear a non-white t-shirt over their swimsuit."

Milking it

"I have never loved anyone like this."

Gia Carides   Actor Gia Carides writes about the intense satisfaction of breastfeeding her daughter beyond the baby years.

Parenting Fix

The one parenting mistake that's easy to fix

Young people masturbating are free to explore their bodies and experience pleasure without the risks.

Nelly Thomas   What not to do when your tweenager asks a confronting question.

Daughters of working mothers better educated and earn more

"Have you ever felt so overcome by your own neediness you did something weird? When I was pregnant, I did this weird, small thing."

Rachel Browne   Working mums have daughters who are better educated and higher earning while their sons do more housework and childcare.

Last word

Amanda Hooton.

Amanda Hooton   Amanda Hooton: It’s time to open the storage boxes and batten down the hatches.

Tipping Point

The pleasures and sorrows of a three-child family

Three's a crowd: Samantha Selinger-Morris with (from left) Jasper, 8, Flynn, 23 months, and Elke, 6.

Samantha Selinger-Morris   Two-child families are now the norm, so what drives people to have a third despite the financial strain and stress?

The tipping point

Three's a crowd: Samantha Selinger-Morris with (from left) Jasper, 8, Flynn, 23 months, and Elke, 6.

Samantha Selinger-Morris   The two-child family is now the norm. But what drives people to have a third despite the strain on finances and the stress?

Women 'double-crossed' over paid parental leave

Women 'double-crossed' over paid parental leave

Jenna Price   When my first baby was five weeks old, I went back to work. I had six weeks paid maternity leave and nothing else.

Miscarriage myths

Grieving for an imagined future

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Annabel, a pregnancy counselling specialist, explains why it is so hard to talk about miscarriage.

Kate Middleton's body isn't to blame for women's 'post-baby body' anxieties

All in a day's work: Kate Middleton and Prince William with Charlotte Elizabeth Diana.

Kasey Edwards   For once, I'd like to hear someone say, "She just made a person. Nice work."

This is what I learnt about my body after baby

Childbirth

Liv Hambrett   When it comes to producing offspring, the rules are simple and predictable- get pregnant but don't look pregnant.

Jacinta Tynan

Jacinta Tynan on what her babies have taught her

Jacinta Tynan with her boys Otis, age three, and Jasper, five.

Here’s what Jacinta Tynan has learnt from living with two pint-sized Zen masters – her sons.

When a midweek night out is a rare and wonderful thrill

Amanda Hooton.

Amanda Hooton   It was a glimpse into another world: a midweek night out amid inner-city adults doing curious things.

My paternity leave wasn't a holiday

My leave was no vacation. Vacations are a time where you can relax and unwind from the stresses of everyday life.

Dave Dash   My manager didn't realise "How was your holiday" was the worst thing to ask me after I came back from paternity leave.

Kate Holden

Children never seemed to care about adults so I didn't care much about them

Before I had a baby, children were movement rather than people. But that all changed.

Kate Holden   Before I had a baby, children were movement rather than people. But then my depth of field changed.

Kasey Edwards

We need better care for mothers after childbirth

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Kasey Edwards   "Any woman who’s seen to be taking care of her own needs, rather than being totally devoted to those of her baby, is liable to be branded selfish."

Single motherhood

Why I always dreamt of being a single mum

"Being a single mum is an experience I have craved for as long as I can remember."

Katy Chatel   When one parent can be better than two.

Being good with children doesn't mean I want my own

She's a natural: being good with children does not always equal wanting to have kids of your own.

Emily Maguire   Emily Maguire is adored by children, and loves them right back. It’s just that she doesn’t want any of her own.

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When men want babies more than women

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Kasey Edwards   When Matt proposed to Emma he stipulated one non-negotiable condition. Children.

Lost in translation

When your child speaks a language you don't

"She's singing songs I've never heard and whose storylines I can't follow."

Abigail Rasminsky   Watching her learn German is heartbreaking, as she is entering a world I literally cannot understand.

Breastfeeding opinions

If you’re not my baby, I don’t want to hear your opinions on breastfeeding

I would love to keep my choices private, but I need to be in the world and I won’t be sequestered.

Emily Kaye Lazzaro   I would love to keep my choices private, but I need to be in the world and I won’t be sequestered.

Why is it taboo for women to breastfeed each other's babies?

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Catherine Rodie   Why is the idea of nursing someone else's baby so socially unacceptable?

No one needs to worry about 'pregnancy abs'

Sarah Staged (2nd Right) speaking about the controversy surrounding her 'pregnancy abs' Instagram posts

Kasey Edwards   The 'pregnancy abs' thing began after lingerie model Sarah Stage started posting her pregnant belly selfies online.

Facial Palsy

What my son's facial difference has taught me

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Belinda Peters   "When he flashed me his first crooked smile when he was six weeks old, both happiness and fear flooded my body. I knew then that facial palsy would always be a part of our life and if he was to grow up different then so must I."

Six of the most dangerous toddler food trends

"If children are on vegan or vegetarian diets it’s important to make sure they are nutritionally adequate"

Kasey Edwards   Pete Evans' paleo cookbook for kids has caused a storm. But there are plenty of other unsafe food trends for babies and toddlers.

Parenting FAQs

What do women fear most about motherhood?

A bit of neglect - is it ever a good thing when it comes to modern parenting?

As new parents quickly discover, babies don't come with an operating manual.

Talking childbirth

We need to stop using this word when we talk about childbirth

"To remove gender oppression in birth we need to stop moralising and listen to women."

Kim Lock   Birth is yet another area of society where to remove gendered oppression we need to stop moralising and listen to women, despite how confronting it may be.

Bonds Baby Search

Why Bonds Baby Search exploits children and parents

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Kasey Edwards   It’s marketed as just a bit of harmless fun, but let’s face it: the Bonds Baby Search competition is the reputable version of 'Toddlers and Tiaras', writes Kasey Edwards.

Home schooling

Why I chose to homeschool our son who has Down syndrome

Kari Wagner-Peck with her husband and son.

Kari Wagner-Peck   After two years, we realised school was hindering my son's education.

Flexible childcare

Flexible childcare isn't just a 'women's issue'

The Productivity Commission just released its much anticipated final report on childcare and early childhood learning.

Andie Fox   Andie Fox on why it's so important for working parents to choose the type of childcare they need.

Real life

I love my kid but I'm so-so on parenting

A bit of neglect - is it ever a good thing when it comes to modern parenting?

Laura Jackel   "I really have no idea what I'm doing, whether I am getting it horribly wrong, spot on or if I am just really crap at it."

Parenting debate

Should you discipline other people's children?

I wonder how many of my friends would be happy to let me intervene.

Lauren Smelcher Sams   Can friendships survive the ultimate parental disagreement?

Raising teens

When your teen says: 'Mum, you'll never be as good as me'

The time of plummeting: the change of attitude as children become adolescents can be difficult for parents to deal with.

Joanne Fedler   When her children were young, Joanne Fedler’s word was gospel. Now she has teenagers, the whole game has changed.

Cut loose

The time of plummeting: the change of attitude as children become adolescents can be difficult for parents to deal with.

When her children were young, Joanne Fedler’s word was gospel. Now she has teenagers, the whole game has changed.

Sisterhood of Motherhood

Can we stop trying to make 'mummy tribes' happen?

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Sarah Macdonald   This advertisement is as far from a campaign for a 'sisterhood of motherhood' as Tony Abbott's maternity leave scheme is from reality.

Not good enough Mr Abbott: it's time to act on childcare

Prime Minister Tony Abbott

Lisa Bryant   If he wants to keep his job, maybe it's time he started making some decisions and not just blaming the childcare problem on his predecessors.

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Positive parenting

How to talk to your daughter about weight

"Body hatred isn't about how you look, it's about how you feel about how you look."

Kasey Edwards   Five things I'm determined to do to help my daughters avoid body hatred.

Home births: let's stop the demonisation and stigma

Home births are safer in some cases, British health authorities say.

Kim Lock   It's not healthy or helpful for expectant mothers.

New parents

The eight stages of early parenthood

'We have Hollywood expectations about what parenthood is going to be like."

Kasey Edwards   To become a well functioning parent, there are 8 stages you'll need to transition through to adjust to your new life.

Same-sex parenting

Kids ask the darndest questions about lesbian mums

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Joo-Inn Chew   But they are also more accepting than adults, says Joo-Inn Chew.

Family dinner

The family dinner is not a sacred rite that will save our children

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Sarah Macdonald   A recent article in the Washington Post is just another example of the push telling us that family dinners are good for the brain, the body, the spirit and world peace.

Private school

Is a $500,000 private school education really worth it?

A $500,000 education -- is it worth it?

Paul Chai   Or are parents merely harbouring an irrational fear of public schools?

Positive representation

Disney needs a Down syndrome princess

An online petition featuring Keston Ott-Dahl’s daughter Delaney Skye.

Kate Lyons   "The kids are very aware that they’re not represented and that there’s nobody like them on TV.”

Ask a counsellor

Seven brutally honest questions about marriage after children

Dads often feel quite excluded from the pregnancy, the birth and the post-partum period, and they are craving the connection with their partner.

We asked Daily Life counsellor Elly Taylor seven brutally honest questions about marriage after children.

Toddler tech

Why I returned my daughter's tablet

"When my husband came home from work, we stared at the gift together."

Meredith Hale   The Christmas gift our family didn't want: a new Kindle Fire - for my 5-year-old.

Child adoption

How we came to have a son with Down syndrome

Kari Wagner-Peck with her husband and son.

Kari Wagner-Peck   Everyone in foster care--and really in life--has something that makes them more vulnerable. We just know what our son's is.

Dad material

What women actually look for in a sperm donor

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Natalie Bochenski   Study shows women value more than just money when choosing a sperm donor.

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Parenting

Stop saying 'I'm doing it for the kids'

"I don’t want my kids to think I am aimless or without goals, but nor do I want them to think that I only do things for them."

Paul Chai   "I don’t want my kids to think I am aimless or without goals, but nor do I want them to think that I only do things for them."

How to leave the house without wasting time to get ready

Lisa Pryor.

Lisa Pryor   If you're willing to drag your brood out the door half-dressed and snot-encrusted, getting out of the house is really a breeze.

Dear Mark Latham

Dear Mark Latham, mothers are not the natural enemy of stay-at-home dads

Mark Latham

Andie Fox   It's time for the former Labor Leader to recognise 'leftie mummy bloggers’ are his people. Here's why.

Yumi Stynes

Yumi Stynes: "looking at that photo of my daughter now, I could cry"

Yumi Stynes and daughter Mercy at the <i>Paddington Bear</i> premiere.

Yumi Stynes   Yumi Stynes' powerful response to a tacky newspaper attack on what her baby wore to a children's film premiere.

Yule never forget: Christmas memories

Tug of war: with all the pressure in the build-up, it's little wonder that some of us are ready to break come Christmas Day.

Juanita Phillips, Ben Elton and William McInnes recount the Christmases that are seared into their memories, for all the right – or wrong – reasons.

Mid-life motherhood

Being a new mum in your 40s

"Being an older mother has meant I've had the confidence to do other things as I raise my daughter."

Four women explain how they have coped with 'mid-life motherhood'.

Mother forced to cover up with large napkin while breastfeeding at London hotel

She tweeted two photos of herself breastfeeding, with and without the napkin she was forced to cover herself with.

Melanie Hall   Lou Burns criticises hotel's 'Victorian' policy after staff told her to cover herself with 'ridiculous shroud' while breastfeeding her 12-week-old daughter.

Parenting cliches

Are you guilty of these parenting cliches?

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Sarah Macdonald   All parents are different but they do one thing the same. They vow to be different

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