Parenting and Families

How I came to have an unassisted home birth

Raidah Shah Idil

Raidah Shah Idil 12:15 AM   Am I a home birth advocate? No. I am an advocate for women choosing the birth they want.

Sex ed

Teenagers and sex: where parents go wrong

Many teenagers feel school sex education focuses too much on risk prevention and not enough on communication.

Cosima Marriner   Teens want more than the standard sex talk, according to a new study.

Adoption laws

Adoption ban on pregnant women to be lifted

"It seems to me one of those regulations that was a hangover from the Dark Ages."

Kirsty Needham   Pregnant women will no longer be barred from adoption waiting lists in NSW, after the Baird Government decided the practice was discriminatory.

Love you, Dad

Sunday life fathers day gift guide august 30

Whether he's a first-time father or boasts a large brood, he deserves to be spoilt.

'The gay agenda'

I'm a 'gayby' and my family deserves respect

"I was– and am– incredibly proud of my family."

Maeve Marsden   I was– and am– incredibly proud of my family, but I learnt too young that there are many in this world who would rather I didn't exist.

What's it like to start a family in your fifties?

As M&S chief Laura Wade-Gery looks forward to her first child at 50, Naomi Gryn shares her own experience of late motherhood.

Naomi Gryn   As M&S chief Laura Wade-Gery looks forward to her first child at 50, Naomi Gryn shares her own experience of late motherhood.

Lost boys

"Deep down, I understand that the next part of his journey requires me to take a back seat."

Caro Webster   Caro Webster sees her teenager growing into a man and realises, with pride and pain, that it's time for her to step back.

Family photos

Why do mothers hide from family photos?

 The hidden mother in family photos is a metaphor for what can happen to a woman's identity when she has children.

Kasey Edwards   The hidden mother in family photos is a metaphor for what can happen to a woman's identity when she has children.

Teenage jobs

Why all teens should get a job

"Give your children a gift: Encourage them to work - and keep working," writes Gina Barreca.

Gina Barreca   "After more than 30 years of teaching, here's what I know: Students perform better if they do something else in addition to being a student."

Guns 'n' daughters

Meshel Laurie: My daughter's toy arsenal is fine with me

Meshel Laurie.

Meshel Laurie   For Meshel Laurie, toy guns are totally fine, toy vacuum cleaners somewhat less so.

Life matters

Meshel Laurie.

Meshel Laurie   For Meshel Laurie, toy guns are totally fine, toy vacuum cleaners somewhat less so.

Trans kids

For five years, I thought my daughter was a boy

The day Marlo Mack's daughter met Laverne Cox.

Marlo Mack   Marlo Mack describes what it's like to parent a transgender child.

Target will remove gender-based labeling in toy aisles

Target will remove gender-based labeling in toy aisles

Kavita Kumar   After a tweet of a sign in a Target store that distinguished between "building sets" and "girls' building sets", the retailer is phasing out the gender based signage.

Solving problems

How I reclaimed my love for maths

Eventually, both my mother and I reclaimed maths

A.K. Whitney   When my mum told me she was bad at maths, I clung to that bond.

Why are we so judgmental about motherhood vices?

Mother of three Lea Grover

Jen Vuk   Public shaming hurts. Especially when it comes from those who should know better -- other parents.

What no one tells you about motherhood in the police force

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J.M. Peace   Sometimes, as a cop, I know things a parent shouldn't.

The unexpected sadness of a petless childhood

Soft coated wheaten terrier puppy.

Candy Schulman   As one city mum discovers, there's an emotional price to pay for keeping your house puppy-free.

The force

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J.M. Peace   Police officer J. M. Peace writes of the moments when motherhood collides with her day job.

Why are we spending so much time with our kids?

Growing up, my family could have done a few more things together. But I think the pendulum may have swung too far the other way, writes Paul Chai.

Paul Chai   Growing up, my family could have done a few more things together. But I think the pendulum may have swung too far the other way, writes Paul Chai.

Body image

How to stop a five-year-old from dieting

Dieting sets children on a dangerous path.

Kasey Edwards   Dieting sets children on a dangerous path. Here's how to teach healthy alternatives.

Why it's the everyday parenting moments that count the most

As you watch your child grow, It's those little moments that may be worth cherishing the most.

Evelyn Lewin   As you watch your child grow, It's those little moments that may be worth cherishing the most.

School nut bans don't protect kids with food allergies

Fruit is just fine: Leonie Giddy and her son Bradford, 7 who is allergic to peanuts.

Cosima Marriner   School nut bans don't protect children from anaphylactic attacks, but can instead cause resentment and bullying of the growing number of kids with food allergies, schools and parents are now being told.

Michelle Bridges' comments outrage women struggling with fertility

The pair announced their news in <i>Who</i> magazine.

Letitia Rowlands   Fitness guru Michelle Bridges has outraged women struggling with infertility by suggesting her intense exercise regime and healthy eating helped her conceive at 44 years of age.

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Why I have backed down on a junk food ban

Like Masterchef judge George Calombaris, I banned something in our house recently too -- banning things.

Paul Chai   Like Masterchef judge George Calombaris, I banned something in our house recently too -- banning things.

Vaginal surgery isn't about vanity

About one in ten women in Australia will need surgery years after childbirth

Jenna Price   About one in ten women in Australia will need surgery years after childbirth. But it's not for the reasons you think.

Everyday moments

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Evelyn Lewin   As you watch your child grow, It's those little moments that may be worth cherishing the most.

Adventures in babysitting

The best thing I learned while babysitting a five-year-old

Little boy playing with a toy aeroplane he has made

Dom Knight   It's easy to make babysitting fun when you're young at heart - and there's Lego involved, writes Dom Knight.

What I would've done differently when my parents divorced

"Going through a divorce has been likened to being in a car crash. Every day. For years."

Kasey Edwards   It happened ten years ago. And even though I was an adult, it was still one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.

Bad advice

'Just be yourself' is a cruel piece of advice

Ms

Jesse Browner   As my daughters grow older, they're hounded by this hollow motto.

The one parenting tactic to avoid at all cost

"Shaming children, even in subtle forms, totally undermines our goal of raising them resilient."

Kasey Edwards   Shaming children, even in subtle forms, totally undermines our goal of raising resilient children.

Mum's Diet

The outdated school book that's teaching body hatred to our kids

Mum's Diet

Kasey Edwards   Mum's Diet is as bad as it sounds, jam-packed with weight obsession, crash dieting and body shaming, writes Kasey Edwards.

When - and why - do children learn to fib?

The focus of my interest isn't the lie itself, but the truth one tries to conceal. What is so unbearable to face?

Ayelet Gundar-Goshen   Children lie when truth fails them, or when they fail to deal with truth.

The joys - and challenges - of having children born years apart

On for young and old: Deb Herdman with her children Alex, Tyler and Jessica.

Evelyn Lewin   When the days of changing nappies are over, most parents breathe a sigh of relief. Others have another round ahead of them.

Australia keeps falling further behind on parental leave

Richard Branson granted new fathers at Virgin up to 12 months' paternity leave on full pay.

Julie McKay   "When I heard Virgin was offering men 12 months paid parental leave, I could hardly believe it," writes Julie McKay from UN Women.

Internet killed the video store

Our weekly pilgrimage also offered a small sense of community.

Matt Teffer   For Matt Teffer, the juggernaut of online streaming spells the end of a cherished family tradition.

Do mums really just obsessively talk about their children?

Couple of young women drinking wine at the counter in a restaurant

Natalie Reilly   Natalie Reilly describes three main types of conversations mothers have. And, surprise, they're not all about kids.

What I learned in my year as a stay at home dad

"I'm no stranger to children; I'm a consultant paediatrician with over 13 years of training, but parenting and households were largely unexplored territory."

Chris Elliot   I'm no stranger to children; I'm a consultant paediatrician. And yet, this is what happened.

Pet Rescue

This kid escaped domestic violence, then helped build a pet shelter so his cat could too

Robert and Jennifer Pressler reunited with their (super) cat, Clark Kent.

Jenny Noyes   Because furry family members need and deserve protection too.

Shame School

This mum fought a sexist pool party dress code at her son's school and won

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Jenny Noyes   Jennifer Smith was rightly outraged when she saw this on the permission slip: "All girls must wear a non-white t-shirt over their swimsuit."

Milking it

"I have never loved anyone like this."

Gia Carides   Actor Gia Carides writes about the intense satisfaction of breastfeeding her daughter beyond the baby years.

Parenting Fix

The one parenting mistake that's easy to fix

Young people masturbating are free to explore their bodies and experience pleasure without the risks.

Nelly Thomas   What not to do when your tweenager asks a confronting question.

Daughters of working mothers better educated and earn more

Specialist units provide a safe environment for mothers and babies.

Rachel Browne   Working mums have daughters who are better educated and higher earning while their sons do more housework and childcare.

Last word

Amanda Hooton.

Amanda Hooton   Amanda Hooton: It’s time to open the storage boxes and batten down the hatches.

Tipping Point

The pleasures and sorrows of a three-child family

Three's a crowd: Samantha Selinger-Morris with (from left) Jasper, 8, Flynn, 23 months, and Elke, 6.

Samantha Selinger-Morris   Two-child families are now the norm, so what drives people to have a third despite the financial strain and stress?

The tipping point

Three's a crowd: Samantha Selinger-Morris with (from left) Jasper, 8, Flynn, 23 months, and Elke, 6.

Samantha Selinger-Morris   The two-child family is now the norm. But what drives people to have a third despite the strain on finances and the stress?

Women 'double-crossed' over paid parental leave

Women 'double-crossed' over paid parental leave

Jenna Price   When my first baby was five weeks old, I went back to work. I had six weeks paid maternity leave and nothing else.

Miscarriage myths

Grieving for an imagined future

Booties

Annabel, a pregnancy counselling specialist, explains why it is so hard to talk about miscarriage.

Kate Middleton's body isn't to blame for women's 'post-baby body' anxieties

All in a day's work: Kate Middleton and Prince William with Charlotte Elizabeth Diana.

Kasey Edwards   For once, I'd like to hear someone say, "She just made a person. Nice work."

This is what I learnt about my body after baby

Childbirth

Liv Hambrett   When it comes to producing offspring, the rules are simple and predictable- get pregnant but don't look pregnant.

Jacinta Tynan

Jacinta Tynan on what her babies have taught her

Jacinta Tynan with her boys Otis, age three, and Jasper, five.

Here’s what Jacinta Tynan has learnt from living with two pint-sized Zen masters – her sons.

When a midweek night out is a rare and wonderful thrill

Amanda Hooton.

Amanda Hooton   It was a glimpse into another world: a midweek night out amid inner-city adults doing curious things.

My paternity leave wasn't a holiday

My leave was no vacation. Vacations are a time where you can relax and unwind from the stresses of everyday life.

Dave Dash   My manager didn't realise "How was your holiday" was the worst thing to ask me after I came back from paternity leave.

Kate Holden

Children never seemed to care about adults so I didn't care much about them

Before I had a baby, children were movement rather than people. But that all changed.

Kate Holden   Before I had a baby, children were movement rather than people. But then my depth of field changed.

Kasey Edwards

We need better care for mothers after childbirth

Childbirth

Kasey Edwards   "Any woman who’s seen to be taking care of her own needs, rather than being totally devoted to those of her baby, is liable to be branded selfish."

Single motherhood

Why I always dreamt of being a single mum

"Being a single mum is an experience I have craved for as long as I can remember."

Katy Chatel   When one parent can be better than two.

Being good with children doesn't mean I want my own

She's a natural: being good with children does not always equal wanting to have kids of your own.

Emily Maguire   Emily Maguire is adored by children, and loves them right back. It’s just that she doesn’t want any of her own.

Kasey Edwards

When men want babies more than women

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Kasey Edwards   When Matt proposed to Emma he stipulated one non-negotiable condition. Children.

Lost in translation

When your child speaks a language you don't

"She's singing songs I've never heard and whose storylines I can't follow."

Abigail Rasminsky   Watching her learn German is heartbreaking, as she is entering a world I literally cannot understand.

Breastfeeding opinions

If you’re not my baby, I don’t want to hear your opinions on breastfeeding

I would love to keep my choices private, but I need to be in the world and I won’t be sequestered.

Emily Kaye Lazzaro   I would love to keep my choices private, but I need to be in the world and I won’t be sequestered.