Parenting and Families

Patrick Lenton

How to remember loved ones after they're gone

"As anyone who's worked in a museum knows, conserving an old artifact isn't just about setting it aside - it's about ...

Patrick Lenton   "As anyone who's worked in a museum knows, conserving an old artifact isn't just about setting it aside - it's about performing regular upkeep."

To kiss or not to kiss... what are the rules?

Victoria Beckham's lip-kiss to her daughter Harper has divided parents.

Victoria Lambert   Victoria Beckham's lip-kiss to her daughter Harper has divided parents.

No strings attached

An offer from a friend I couldn't refuse

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Jen Vuk   The email began tentatively enough, and then came this: "I wondered whether it would suit you if I came and cooked for your kids one night a week."

Kasey Edwards

Mocking your teen daughter for taking selfies is not good parenting

Burr Martin's Instagram posts mocking his daughter Cassie went viral.

Kasey Edwards   "We bring girls up in a world where being hot and sexy is the most valued thing a woman can be - and then we mock them for it," writes Kasey Edwards.

Opening up

Why silence isn't golden when it comes to IVF

"I was angry at how everyone else around me was falling pregnant naturally, without having to seek out a cold, ...

Nikki Wallman   I'd always imagined I would slip into pregnancy gracefully; a swan dive into the cool, welcoming waters of the next stage of life. Right?

Worried women

Why do women overwhelmingly carry the stress about household finances?

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Kasey Edwards   Kasey Edwards thinks it could have something to do with 'deadbeat dads' who are just as prevalent in well-off homes as on struggle street.

Kasey Edwards

I make a choice every day not to hate my body

"I don't want to calculate the number of hours of my life I have wasted fixated on my body and everything I thought was ...

Kasey Edwards   "I don't want to calculate the number of hours of my life I have wasted fixated on my body and everything I thought was wrong with it."

Creative parenting

Motherhood needn't be the 'enemy' of creative pursuits

Sarah Armstrong.

Sarah Armstrong   There's a tension between writing and family responsibilities, but it can be a productive one, writes Sarah Armstrong.

Everybody, just stay calm

You might enjoy hanging out with that person but it's not your job to change their views.

Sally Rawlings   It's pre-election danger week. Sally Rawlings warns against letting political passions turn longstanding relationships into long-time standoffs.

Parenting zen

Why my smartphone is my parenting lifeline

Parents

Natalie Reilly   "I'm not always making prolonged eye contact with my kids... and I'll not be judged over it," writes Natalie Reilly.

A chance to shine

Daily rejections are why it's vital to tell your special needs child that they really are special.

Kathy Lette   After experiencing rejection after rejection looking for a job, Kathy Lette's autistic son Julius finds his true talent.

Modern family

Love child: A surrogate's story

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Erin O'Dwyer   A surrogate mum and the parents of the baby she gave birth to tell their story. It took trust and courage - and a very detailed plan.

Princess culture

The problem with Disney princesses

The Disney princess culture is damaging girls' self esteem.

Cat Rodie   I thought my five-year-old daughter's love of Disney princesses was harmless, but new research has me thinking twice.

Stay-at-home dad

The part I was not prepared for as a Stay-At-Home Dad

"I see the damage done by narrow gender roles. They force men and women into rigid positions not in the best interests ...

Billy Doidge Kilgore   "I see the damage done by narrow gender roles. They force men and women into rigid positions not in the best interests of their family."

Natalie Reilly

What we can learn about modern parenting from this viral GIF of the Royals

All closer to being head of Australia than you.

Natalie Reilly   "What is obvious from the now-famous gif of the Queen scolding William is that Her Majesty places a higher value on protocol than parenting," writes Natalie Reilly.

Parenting

TV was swallowing my kids whole, so here's what I did

It's an internal struggle for many parents. How much television is too much?

Erin O'Dwyer   I announced the television was broken, and the following seven days were a revelation.

Kasey Edwards

Why I don't want my daughter to be 'the prettiest girl in the room'

"We live in a culture where it's so normal to judge women on the basis of their beauty, that even little girls in ...

Kasey Edwards   "We live in a culture where it's so normal to judge women on the basis of their beauty, that even little girls in sporting competitions are subjected to the oppressive beauty imperative," writes Kasey Edwards.

Anti-vaxxers

'I now view anti-vaxxers as sort of a cult'

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Cosima Marriner   What happens when avid opponents of vaccination "convert"? Cosima Marriner looks at the fallout.

Paul Chai

'Aren't you lucky you had boys?'

"If I had a penny every time I heard this, I'd have amassed a lot of cash by now," writes Paul Chai.

Paul Chai   "If I had a penny every time I heard this, I'd have amassed a lot of cash by now," writes Paul Chai.

Sisterhood

Why our sibling bonds may be our strongest

My sisters occupied and experienced the same world as me, at the same eye level as me, and there is an incredible ...

Robyn Passante   My sisters occupied and experienced the same world as me, at the same eye level as me, and there is an incredible intimacy in that.

Close bond

Let's ditch the stereotypes about what makes a "good" grandparent

It is important for children to see their grandparents as the flawed, complex people they are

Christine Organ   It is important for children to see their grandparents as the flawed, complex people they are, argues Christine Organ.

Stanford rape

What parents can learn from the Brock Turner case

Brock Turner and his father Dan Turner in court.

Amy Joyce   Many of us seem to think kids are born with empathy and respect for women, Amy Joyce writes.

Parenting

When my fur baby met my actual baby

Dogs and babies each have their special needs.

Nikki Wallman   I fell in love with a rescue dog. Then along came a baby. Could we all live happily ever after?

Mini CEOs

Are we all overcomplicating our kids' lives?

Paul Chai swears there are more birthday parties than kids at his school.

Paul Chai   Paul Chai swears there are more birthday parties than kids at his school.

Quiet child

How I learnt to support my introverted child

"My daughter has taught me a lot about the quiet and wonderful world of introverts."

Sara Lindberg   "My daughter has taught me a lot about the quiet and wonderful world of introverts," writes Sara Lindberg.

Book nostalgia

Mourning my sister through the books she left behind

"Emily's library remained like a silent repository of her, and I had to dismantle it."

Tom Rachman   Emily's library remained like a silent repository of her, and I had to dismantle it.

The pain and privilege of deconstructing my mother's life

Stocksy.

Bernadette Morley   It really is quite something. ​Deconstructing a life that has spanned more than 76 years without either that person's consent or supervision.

Career inspo

Where are the videos inspiring boys to do 'feminine' jobs?

A female firefighter, surgeon and fighter pilot surprise schoolchildren in the Upworthy video.

Kasey Edwards   There's no shortage of inspirational videos challenging social limitations placed on girls, but without the same for boys they won't solve anything.

SAHM sacrifice

If I had my time over, I wouldn't choose to be a stay-at-home mum

"I've landed on my feet, but I nearly didn't get here, and that level of sacrifice just isn't worth it," writes Megan ...

Megan Blandford   "I've landed on my feet, but I nearly didn't get here, and that level of sacrifice just isn't worth it," writes Megan Blandford.

Good sport

Growing up a sports hater in a football family

"I seemed to think that because I was heavily into books, that I had to also hate the very concept that sport existed," ...

Patrick Lenton   "I've had to learn to be OK with the fact that my birthday gets celebrated around the schedule of the AFL Grand Final," writes Patrick Lenton.

Role reversal

When you have to parent your mother

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Helena Andrews   "What's funny about the question of motherhood and daughterhood is how easily the once permanent-seeming titles get wiped away."

Kasey Edwards

Do we really have to love every moment of parenting?

"The pressure to pretend that mothering is 100 per cent pure joy 100 per cent of the time is cruel and oppressive," ...

Kasey Edwards   "The thing about parenting is that it doesn't stop. Every day, every night, every week, every month for YEARS," writes Kasey Edwards.

Unplanned pregnancy

Facing an unexpected pregnancy when it may be 'now or never'

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Erin Riley   Choice can be a complicated matter for women with fertility issues, as Erin Riley discovered.

Alzheimer's

Alzheimer's is not a gentle process

"Alzheimer's is not forgetting where you've put your coat or the names of your family - it's forgetting what a coat is ...

Eliza-Jane Henry-Jones   "Alzheimer's is not forgetting where you've put your coat or the names of your family - it's forgetting what a coat is and seeing your family as strangers who are trying to hurt you."

Queer parenting

Reconciling being queer with my desire for motherhood

It felt like my desire to be a mother, especially a young one, flew in the face of feminism.

Katy Chatel   Katy Chatel had to let go of rigid expectations to live the life she'd always wanted.

Meshel Laurie

When 'having it all' just doesn't add up

Meshel Laurie

Meshel Laurie   For as long as I can remember I've been focused on accumulating stuff - money, objects, jobs, friends. So why does it feel like grasping at straws?

Career advice

Why I encouraged my literature-loving daughter to be an engineer

Only 21 per cent of mothers would encourage their child to follow the same career path.

Lisa Papademetriou   I don't want my daughter to follow in my career footsteps, and it turns out that I am not alone.

Tough love

I am grateful for the parental pressure I resented as a child

"I felt the pressure to succeed, and I did."

Giselle Au-Nhien Nguyen   "As I begin to think about what I want for my own future children, I develop a deeper understanding of my parents' decisions."

Mother's Day

Go call your mum - science says it'll make you feel better

People overwhelmingly feel better after a chat to Mum.

Amy Joyce   People overwhelmingly feel better after a chat to Mum, even if she doesn't have the solution to their problems.

Hello baby

Hello baby.

Janie Barrett   Intrigued by the very private nature of birth, photographer Janie Barrett took her camera into the delivery ward to capture the awe-filled moment when a woman becomes a mother.

Midwifery

The heartache of Mother's Day for those who've lost children

"I think of the mothers who have empty arms."

Fiona McArthur   At this time of year, midwife Fiona McArthur thinks also of the mothers who have empty arms.

Refugee parenting

Where going to mothers' group is truly a lifeline

Syrian refugee Dima, 34, sits on a couch with her son after an interview with Plan International Australia at the ...

Ruby Hamad   "We are in difficult situations. We can't even go back to where we came from, and these hard circumstances of make things worse for our kids."

Mother's Day

Why aunts are the ultimate wingwomen of modern parenting

"My sister, like scores of aunts the world over, is essential to the bringing up of my child."

Celina Ribeiro   "My sister, like scores of aunts the world over, is essential to the bringing up of my child," writes Celina Ribeiro.

Gabrielle Lane

Why 'the bank of Mum and Dad' isn't helping anyone

The trend for parents to continue to give money to their offspring well into adulthood is bad for young people as well ...

Gabrielle Lane   The trend for parents to continue to give money to their offspring well into adulthood is bad for young people as well as old, writes Gabrielle Lane.

Family memories

Visiting my 90-year-old mother at her aged care facility

"In the old days, this would be called a 'Home'. Nowadays they've dropped the pretence. A 'residence' or 'facility' is, ...

Beth Spencer   "In the old days, this would be called a 'Home'. Nowadays they've dropped the pretence. A 'residence' or 'facility' is, after all, more accurate," writes Beth Spencer.

Parenting

Trying (and failing) to model bravery for my child

There is value in modelling being afraid of something, and doing it anyway.

Lisa Papademetriou   There is value in modelling being afraid of something, and doing it anyway.

Mata Hari mums

Kathy Lette.

Kathy Lette   With their natural talent for snooping, middle-aged mothers really do make the best spies, says Kathy Lette.

Paul Chai

What to do when parenting styles clash

"Recently, after years of being the United States of Parental Agreement, my wife and I have found that we are not always ...

Paul Chai   "Recently, after years of being the United States of Parental Agreement, my wife and I have found that we are not always on the same page," writes Paul Chai.

Moving on

When your widowed father finds someone new

"Intellectually, I am all in. Emotionally, however, it's a little hard for me," writes Susan Margolis Stillman.

Susan Margolis Stillman   "Intellectually, I am all in. Emotionally, however, it's a little hard for me," writes Susan Margolis Stillman.

The talk

How young is too young to talk to girls about sexual pleasure?

We shouldn't make the mistake of trying to protect our children's innocence by maintaining their ignorance, writes Kasey ...

Kasey Edwards   We shouldn't make the mistake of trying to protect our children's innocence by maintaining their ignorance, writes Kasey Edwards.

Anxiety

Learning to parent my daughter, and myself, through anxiety

"Have I not made a safe enough home? Did my worry slide down my DNA and into her? Did my husband give her blue eyes, ...

Lyz Lenz   "Have I not made a safe enough home? Did my worry slide down my DNA and into her? Did my husband give her blue eyes, while I gave her fear?"

When mothers are considered no better than graduates

Job sharing and part-time work are supposed to be options. That's the story, anyhow.

Kasey Edwards   We've been fed a line that workplaces are more friendly to mothers now. Let's get real.

Footy culture

Why I don't want my daughter to be a footy fan

"Why would I want my daughter to join or support something that, at best, will consider her inferior and ancillary?"

Kasey Edwards   Think football "isn't just for boys"? Kasey Edwards doesn't buy that.

Missing mum

Three years ago, my mother vanished without a trace

"She loved us all too much to walk away."

Three years ago, Amelia Kaiser's 42-year-old mother, Lorrin Whitehead, walked out of a supermarket in Bannockburn, Victoria. She has not been seen since.

Hawaii High-O

Kerri Sackville.

Kerri Sackville   An overseas holiday casts a new glow on life at home, says Kerri Sackville.

Divorced parenting

The heartache of every second summer holiday as a divorced mum

"The reality is they are growing up without me half the time."

Erin Mantz   "You prepare yourself for a lot of things when you get divorced and have kids. But holidays alone are especially hard,"

Rainbow family

Why do people ask which of my mums is my 'real mum'?

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Michael Kruger   Michael Kruger, who was raised by two mums, says "what defines a parent is the relationship".

Parenting

How to be a better financial role model for your child

"Like highly trained CIA agents, our kids are studying us all the time."

Kimberly Palmer   Kimberly Palmer says she is very careful about the way she speaks about money around her young children.

Young people and the inescapable world of pornography

Porn lessons: Are they really needed in schools?

Judith Ireland   Just as pornography is only a few clicks away for adults on the internet - so it is for children.

The truth about parenting a gifted child with autism

Thula goes everywhere with Iris.

Louise France   Six-year-old Iris' art has thousands of fans include Angelina Jolie. Here, her mother opens up about her unique challenges.