Love, sex and Relationships

How I got gamed by a pick up artist

No one is immune from a pick up artist, not even our Clem Bastow.

CLEM BASTOW It’s popular internet consensus to see those who’d attend a PUA course or seminar as the desperate losers of the dating world; we are similarly uncharitable about those women who “allow” themselves to be gamed.

What not to do around your non-white date

Author Michelle Law suffers from an autoimmune condition called alopecia areata.

Michelle Law As a non-white person living in a western country, life can be a little complicated, especially when it comes to romance and dating. And as a white person dating a non-white person, how do you navigate the fraught yet potentially sexy cultural minefield that is the evening before you? Fear not, my friends. Inspired by the many videos about the awkward and sometimes downright offensive remarks made to non-white people, like this one and this one, I've devised a handy list of what not to say and do around your non-white date. Let us begin. 

Is this the new 'one night stand'?

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NATALIE REILLY You wake up to a text. 'Hey! I had a great time last night! Hope to see you again! x'.

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Bedroom secrets

No sex please, we're married

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Erin O'Dwyer The bedroom is fast becoming a place for reading, television, sleeping – and not much else.

Who's getting more?

There's gaping big orgasm imbalance between Australian men and women

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JENNA PRICE And everything else you need to know about the results of one of the largest sex surveys conducted in Australia.

Weight of words

Why handwritten messages are still so important

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Monica McInerney "The big events in our lives – births, death, marriages – take time to happen, time to absorb, yet technology pressures us to respond instantly, by email, by text, via Twitter or Facebook. But just because we can move swiftly to communicate our feelings doesn’t mean we always should."

Savage Love

Lessons I learnt from Savage Love

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PIP DOYLE Just because a relationship ran out of steam doesn't mean it wasn’t a great love story.

'Benevolent stalking'

Inside the mind of a stalker

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Radhika Sanghani A man has written a blog, attempting to justify how he became an accidental and 'benevolent stalker'. But nothing about this story is romantic.

Wedding woes

Is that extravagant wedding hiding a shaky relationship?

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NATALIE REILLY A new study reveals two numbers can predict the health of your marriage.

Coming out

How much easier is it to come out in 2014?

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Ellen McCarthy It's still not easy and LGBT activists think that's probably a good thing.

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TV sex

Sex on TV is getting better, and this is why it's a good thing

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Alyssa Rosenberg The shift from giddy, nude-gawking to more creative and realistic depictions of sex on TV is good news for everyone.

Say it in writing

Why don't we write love letters anymore?

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ALECIA SIMMONDS Why letter-writing will improve your love life.

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Do you care whether your date went to uni? A new dating app thinks you should ...

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Radhika Sanghani The League, a new American dating app that focuses on education, has become the latest must-have for singles.

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First girlfriends club

Cheating boyfriend confronted at airport by three girlfriends

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Claire Cohen Three women, who discovered they were dating the same 20-year-old man, decided to meet him at the airport as he returned from holiday. Now, they've become firm friends.

Sexual evolution

Has the pill become passe?

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BRIGID DELANEY Once, it seemed every woman was on the pill. Now many are choosing alternatives.

Switching sides

What I learned from my year of being bi-sexual

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Brooke Hemphill The idea of switching sides is an idle thought for most, but some time after hanging up my speed-dating hat, I tested the theory by spending a year dating women.

Friendship at 29

What it's like to reach 'peak friendship'

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Erin Munro A reflection on friends and a lifetime of friendship.

Busy buddies

Do you have enough close friends?

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PAUL CHAI The older we get, the harder it is to make new pals. But a sobering survey out of England should inspire us to keep trying.

Online dating

Would you pay someone to design your Tinder profile?

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Rebecca Mitchell How to navigate a dating scene where the height of seduction is a sepia-toned snapshot of one’s genitals.

In bed with a married couple

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Dusting off her stilettos and going to work at a Sydney brothel, ex-journalist Samantha finds herself in bed with a married couple.

Shine a light

This is what financial abuse looks like

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JENNA PRICE It leaves no physical signs – except maybe the signs of a woman who can’t eat because she has to choose between feeding herself and feeding her children. It’s financial abuse.

Same-sex sex

Science reveals the reasons why lesbians have better sex

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Amy Coopes Yep, it's confirmed: they are getting ALL the orgasms, says a new study.

Fool for love

I was scammed out of thousands by my online lovers

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As told to Danielle Colley At 32, Ben Ivey thought a string of women really loved him – but what happened next was truly depressing.

Transgender partners

My husband became a woman and our marriage is stronger than ever

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Leslie Hilburn Fabian "Remaining married to a miserable man was no longer viable for me. Transitioning to female was necessary for my husband, a life-saving solution to six decades of angst, self-loathing and shame."

Australia's first sexting laws to be introduced

The new laws will ensure that young people who receive or send raunchy but non-exploitative sexts are spared from child pornography offences.

HENRIETTA COOK People who send or threaten to distribute explicit images without consent could soon be charged, with the Napthine government introducing Australia's first “sexting” offences into parliament this week.

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What’s more important than Beyoncé’s possible divorce? Everything.

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Zerlina Maxwell Why do we care so much about whether this couple stays together or not?

Misogynist economics

Are you worth your Cost Per Orgasm?

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ANDREW P STREET Because you don’t want to price yourself out of the sex-market – right, ladies?

Infidelity

The three little words that ended a marriage

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Mark Tucker The discovery of a tender text message quickly led to a marriage break-up. Mark Tucker comes to grips with his wife's infidelity.

STI screening

STIs are on the rise - are you safe?

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Fast, ‘no questions asked’ test makes regular STI screening accessible for adult Aussies.

Ol' timey seduction

How to impress a lady with your meat-carving skills

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Emily Brand And other ways guys tried to pick-up girls in the olden days. (Note: they were all pretty ridiculous.)

Clever girls

How your intellect affects the success of your relationship

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Carol Vorderman Finally, we’ve got statistics that vindicate what we've been thinking all along.

Silent treatment

This is why silent treatment never works

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Les Parrott New research shows a passive aggressive fighting style can be a danger sign in a relationship.

Love my ways

Living with your partner's weird obsession

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JO HARTLEY Meet three women for whom romance has involved tolerating, and even learning to love, their partners' obsessions.

The marriage test

Do smart women have better marriages?

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SARAH MACDONALD A new study plots the effect of a woman's success on their chances of getting and staying married.

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Five times relationships weren't better in the 50s

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CLEMENTINE FORD Want to ditch your modern day life and go back to a time were simpler? Think again ladies.

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First impressions

8 worst types of first messages in online dating

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You only get one chance at a first impression, even when it's online.

A la French

Is it a good thing the French force couples to reunite to say goodbye?

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ALECIA SIMMONDS "I got divorced on a near-perfect spring day in Paris."

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Keeping things 'hot'

'Don't get comfortable' is the worst love advice ever

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KATE FRIDKIS It's time to ditch the advice on how to keep your relationship 'hot'.

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Meet Australia's most popular online daters

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PETER MUNRO Who are Australia's most popular online daters? Peter Munro meets the men and women with the greatest click factor.

Creepy texts

When 'sudden sexting' strikes

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GENEVIEVE ROSEN The Straight White Boys Texting Tumblr hit a little close to home…

Life skills

The five people you should unfriend in your 30s

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PIP ROSS Here's to becoming less tolerant to jerks and zealots.

'It's not you'

Why I waited until I was married to write a book about being single

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Sara Eckel Do you need a 'happy ending' to write about the solo life?

Does birth order influence our relationships?

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KATHERINE FEENEY New research indicates those born first stand a better chance of landing a loving, long-term relationship than their siblings. But is it for real, or just something fun to think about?

Exaholism for beginners

Exaholism and other love 'conditions' you probably don't have

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CLEM BASTOW There sure are a lot of afflictions to try and avoid when it comes to love and dating.

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Rise of the man-child

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PAUL CHAI Why are some guys commitment-shy, and as likely to opt for a night of video games with the lads as a date with you?

The one relationship ritual we should let go

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PAUL CHAI A eulogy to one of the most overrated dating rituals of our time.

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Anne Summers on the men in her life

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Robyn Doreian "It's men like him who breed optimism about the future," Anne Summers on her long-term partner Chip Rolley.

Wedding photo etiquette

Sorry, but kissing in wedding photos is gross

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Ben Mathis-Lilley What Ben Mathis-Lilley finds unnerving about posed PDA photographs.

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Women who date younger men

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Joanne Brookfield A man with a much younger woman raises few eyebrows, but reverse the situation and everyone's got an opinion.

An ode to good neighbours

Bad Neigbours.

Tracey Spicer Making time to connect with those around us can lead to a much richer life.

New dating app

The app that weeds out online creeps

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Meet the gatekeeper to groiss sexual innuendo.

Dating site will find you a match based on photos of ex partners

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Candice Chung Online matchmakers argue we are all attracted to a 'type'. But is it a good idea to go down that path?

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Perfect formula?

Dating site will find you a match based on your exes

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Logical, but awkward.

The desire trap

Can intimacy kill your sex life?

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Jane Mulkerrins Intimacy can be a passion killer, says Ether Perel, the bestselling author and relationship counsellor.

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Real life

When marriage is an afterthought

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Ceridwen Dovey Planned over mojitos, Ceridwen Dovey's registry office wedding didn't seem real until the last minute.

Relationship myths

Should your partner be your best friend?

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ALICE WILLIAMS It's counterintuitive, but can too much familliarity be bad for intimacy?

Singles shaming

'Why don't you have a boyfriend?'

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Erin Munro Dear strangers, singleness isn't a problem to be solved.

Louis C.K vs 'fat girls'

The 'fat girl' speech that made TV history

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PAUL CHAI What we can all learn from the latest episode of Louie.

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Irreconcilable geography

Can where you live ruin your marriage?

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PAUL CHAI If my marriage fails it will be due to “irreconcilable geography”.

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