Love, sex and Relationships

Tehran bride

"For all its magic, Iran has pushed us into exile."

Jennifer Klinec   In Iran there are women for fun and women for marriage. I was not in the latter category.

Pregnancy loss

We need to share our stories about miscarriage

Change is going to come when we force the words out of our mouths, and tell people our stories.

Ann Zamudio   Change is going to come when we force the words out of our mouths, and tell people our stories.


Using pets as 'feelings ventriloquists'

Do you use your pets to say things you never could? It's not a bad idea.

Henry Alford   "I say things to our cat Linda that I'm too emotionally constipated to say to my boyfriend."

Kylie Kwong

'I am surrounded by remarkable women'

Kylie Kwong.

Robyn Doreian   Chef Kylie Kwong reflects on the significant women in her life, and moments of light and dark they have shared.

The Sex Myth

Are young people really having as much sex as you think they are?

"Everyone assumes that others are having better sex, and more of it, than they actually are," writes Rachel Hills.

Rachel Hills   It seems our generation's much-lauded hook-up culture is more myth than reality, writes Rachel Hills.

Attacked from both sides

My bisexuality isn't a 'phase'

"It's so exhausting existing in a world that repeatedly tells you your identity is invalid, or a phase, or a front to attract heterosexual men."

Catherine Bouris   It's exhausting to exist in a world that repeatedly tells you your identity is invalid, or a phase, or a front to attract heterosexual men.

I trusted the 'gut feeling' I was being cheated on

Cheated on

Sarah Baker*   And this is what happened.

Could you leave your life behind for your partner?

Long-distance love: Sydney-born Sophie Alize Finnane and Cuban Yoel Carlos Del Rio Olivera

Libby Hakim   Falling in love with a foreigner may sound romantic but the happily-ever-after part can be complicated.

First person

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Sarah Baker*   They say the first year of marriage is the hardest. For Sarah Baker*, it was also the year her marriage ended.

Orgasm equality?

How antidepressants affected my sex life


Suzannah Weiss   No one told me upping my dosage of Prozac and would stop me orgasming.

Touchy subject

It's a good thing we're finally showing female masturbation on TV

Broad City's Abbi scheduling some time with her dildo.

Clem Bastow   Female masturbation is being treated as ordinary and even a bit boring... and that's revolutionary, writes Clem Bastow.

I make new friends to avoid cheating on my partner

"It seems the thrill of the chase can be applied to non-sexual relationships. "

Maeve Marsden   It seems the thrill of the chase can be applied to non-sexual relationships.

Love wins

Gay couple waited 54 years to marry in Dallas and were the first in line

Jack Evans, 85, and George Harris, 82, tied the knot on Friday after 54 years together.

Staff writers   Jack and George met at a house party in 1961 and have been together ever since.

Sex education

What if teenagers helped write their own sex ed curriculum?

A new survey, aimed at 16 to 21-year-old women, is capturing insights into how high school sex education can be improved - from the very people who matter most.

Nina Funnell and Katrina Marson   A new survey shows how high school sex ed can be improved - from the very people who matter most.

Would you trust men to take 'the pill'?

The trust factor will lie in whether you  believe a man who says he is "on the injection".

Paul Chai   Having control over whether or not you become a father sounds like something men should jump at.

Love Costs

The cost of love on the poverty line

"I cannot contribute financially to our relationship on equal footing and this, as a woman with a disability, is a profoundly disempowering place to be in."

Jax Jacki Brown   In Australia, almost one in five people have a disability, 45 per cent of those live on or below the poverty line. Jax Jacki Brown is now one of those people.

How your parents do (and don't) affect who you are attracted to

"We are attracted to what is familiar."

Natalie Reilly   It's time to throw out the silly, hetero-normative studies and get down to the facts.

Aziz Ansari

Aziz Ansari thinks men's first-date texts are lazy

<i>Modern Romance: An Investigation</i>, by Aziz Ansari: out locally through Penguin Books on July 29.

Lisa Bonos   He spends chapters in his new book, 'Modern Romance: An Investigation', highlighting the whole sad situation.

The messy psychology of the awkward personal text

When you express everything via text, "the complexity and messiness of human communication gets shortchanged."

Caitlin Dewey   Increasingly, in fact, we're carrying out our most intimate conversations via carefully edited texts.

My love-sick letters to an unrequited teen crush

"It was the kind of shabby chic tin that was totally in around 1989, a must have on any teenage girl's desk."

Ali Benton   Thirty pages of confessions from a love-sick 14-year-old Ali Benton.

Women of the World

Let's talk about sex with erotic author Krissy Kneen

Erotic author Krissy Kneen.

Rachel Eddie   Erotic author Krissy Kneen spoke to Rachel Eddie about women's sexuality ahead of her appearance at next month's Women Of The World (WOW) festival.

Big Love

Lessons on love from an open marriage

When a polyamorous relationship ends, the tendency is to blame non-monogamy as "unnatural" - even though evolutionary biology suggests the opposite.

Rochelle Siemienowicz   There are as many ways to love and be loved as there are people in the world, writes Rochelle Siemienowicz.

Are new dating apps killing monogamy?

"In the age of Tinder and OkCupid, other options are just a click away."

Caitlin Dewey   In the age of Tinder and OkCupid, other options are just a click away.

Single Ladies

It's okay to be a spinster*

Are women only able to lead respectable single lives when they have the power of refusal?

Sara Eckel   *As long as you're still wanted by men.

Are women really too modest to take compliments?

"Women in the main are great at giving compliments, lousy at receiving them."

Natalie Reilly   Some of us know that, in certain environments, deflection is a weapon of stealth.

Chained Women

The 'chained women' whose husbands refuse them a divorce

Lana Krain remarried after her first husband refused her a gett, but chose not to have children because they would be considered illegitimate.

John Safran   In thrall to an ancient religious law, Jewish women face a lifetime in limbo when their husbands refuse to hand over a special divorce certificate.

Get Cliterate

This awesome project is helping everyone get 'cliterate'

Sophia Wallace: "It's pretty shocking to think, 'okay, we have achieved nuclear fusion...' and yet we discovered the clitoris in 1998."

There are no more excuses for failing to get educated about female sexuality and the clitoris.

Wife Bonus

What is the 'wife bonus' and why do we find it so disturbing?

Women "with a business degree but no job" mentioned waiting for the "year end" to shop for clothes, or buy a table at a charity event.

Jenny Noyes   It's the controversial term that has social commentators and business circles talking marriage, money and sexism.

Coming out stories

Who cares if a celebrity is gay?

Cate Blanchett during a photocall for her film <i>Carol</i> at the 68th Cannes Film Festival.

Maeve Marsden   If someone's sexuality doesn't matter to you, that's great. But it doesn't mean it can be swept under the carpet.

Bad boys


Wendy L. Patrick   An American prosecutor specialising in sex crime lists the red flags that signal when you should get out of a relationship - fast.

Yes woman

Why I'll never be a 'yes woman'

The word "compromise" seems to feature highly in people's relationship rule book, but I see it as an anachronistic kill-joy.

Helen Croydon   The word "compromise" seems to feature highly in people's relationship rule book, but I see it as an anachronistic kill-joy.

Prom don'ts

Teen girls don't need boys to 'protect their character'

According to The Crossing of Manitowoc County, the organisation that supplied the posters, 'Prom time seems to present particular risks for teens'.

Kasey Edwards   A US high school made headlines by informing students prom was 'a night to protect her character.'

The thrill has gone

Maureen Matthews.

Maureen Matthews   A menopausal woman has lost her sex drive and wonders if it will ever return.

Too few good men

Ticking down: In Australia there are almost 100,000 more women than men.

Jane Messer   Wanted: single, available man in his 30s, ready to be a father. But what happens when one is not forthcoming?

Kerri Sackville: What does 'loving life' even mean?

"The sad truth is that 'I love life' is a filler."

Kerri Sackville   In my year or two of online dating, I've concluded that people who "love life" actually don't – at least, not to the extent that it is a defining characteristic.

Masked ball

In the swing of things: Killing Kittens founder Emma Sayle (at right).

Laura Jackel   Elite orgies and the pursuit of female pleasure are big business for entrepreneur Emma Sayle.

Should we be allowed to read famous people's love letters?

 Mexican artist Frida Kahlo

Claire Cohen   Frida Kahlo's love letters will be up for sale next week. But I can’t help but think that such intimate messages should remain private.

Pay it forwards

Good deeds: don't wait to be on the receiving end.

What we all need is a little more kindness, writes Linda McSweeny.

Sex and the older woman

Research shows many women in their 60s, 70s and 80s have more time for sex than ever before.

Clare Kermond   Study debunks myth that older women aren't interested in sex, finding many encourage their partners to experiment.

Why we've all fallen for the 36 questions that promise true love

Stocksy couple love

Claire Cohen   Can a simple questionnaire really make two strangers fall in love?

What happens when women accept compliments online

Gweneth Bateman, 18, who conducted the social experiment of responding to compliments online

Clementine Ford   Man, confidence can be such a boner killer.

Switching sides

What I learned from my year of being bi-sexual

dating women

Brooke Hemphill   The idea of switching sides is an idle thought for most, but some time after hanging up my speed-dating hat, I tested the theory by spending a year dating women.

Friendship at 29

What it's like to reach 'peak friendship'


Erin Munro   A reflection on friends and a lifetime of friendship.

Online dating

Would you pay someone to design your Tinder profile?

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Rebecca Mitchell   How to navigate a dating scene where the height of seduction is a sepia-toned snapshot of one’s genitals.

Love my ways

Living with your partner's weird obsession

Sunday Life. Portrait of Julijana Trifunovic with her husband 'Alice Cooper' and son Zeppelin at their family home in Newtown. Tuesday 17th June 2014. Photograph by James Brickwood. SHD SUNDAY LIFE 140724

Jo Hartley   Meet three women for whom romance has involved tolerating, and even learning to love, their partners' obsessions.

'It's not you'

Why I waited until I was married to write a book about being single


Sara Eckel   Do you need a 'happy ending' to write about the solo life?

Exaholism for beginners

Exaholism and other love 'conditions' you probably don't have

Mindy Kaling from the tv show The Mindy Project

Clem Bastow   There sure are a lot of afflictions to try and avoid when it comes to love and dating.

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Rise of the man-child

Young Bizzare Man with Toys

Paul Chai   Why are some guys commitment-shy, and as likely to opt for a night of video games with the lads as a date with you?

Anne Summers

Anne Summers on the men in her life

BOSS.  Pic of Anne Summers for Boss Dress Code Section.  Pic for article by Sam Hutchinson.  Pic by Nic Walker.  Date 24th March 2014.

Robyn Doreian   "It's men like him who breed optimism about the future," Anne Summers on her long-term partner Chip Rolley.

Wedding photo etiquette

Sorry, but kissing in wedding photos is gross

Bride and Groom kissing in studio, (B&W)

Ben Mathis-Lilley   What Ben Mathis-Lilley finds unnerving about posed PDA photographs.

Toy boy

Women who date younger men

Women with younger men - Melinda and James

Joanne Brookfield   A man with a much younger woman raises few eyebrows, but reverse the situation and everyone's got an opinion.

Tracey Spicer

An ode to good neighbours


Tracey Spicer   Making time to connect with those around us can lead to a much richer life.

Irreconcilable geography

Can where you live ruin your marriage?

Woman in stylish clothes walks away with her back to the camera with a hat and small suitcase in her hands.

Paul Chai   If my marriage fails it will be due to “irreconcilable geography”.

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The successful dumpee manifesto

How to be a boss at getting dumped


Alyson Portlock   Want to rise like a phoenix after being dumped? Here's what not to do. Starting with the mentionitis.

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Sex myths

Debunking myths about women who have a lot of sex


Marrie Lobel   It's time to expose reality by shattering outdated perceptions of women who enjoy an active sex life.

Online dating

You can really find love on the internet, photo series shows

internet love

Effie Mann   'We Met On The Internet' is photographic evidence.

'Cohabitation effect'

There's no such thing as the 'cohabitation effect'

Young couple holding hands in garden, close up

Jessica Grose   No, living together before marriage does not lead to divorce.

The matchmaking trap

People play matchmaker to make themselves happier


Kasey Edwards   Think that blind date your friend set you up on had your best interests at heart? Think again.

Unplug for love

Relationships suffer when we don't unplug

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Thea O'connor   Friday is the National Day of Unplugging when families, parents and couples are encouraged to unplug and reconnect.

Study finds men and women retire for different reasons


Cosima Marriner   Men think about their bank balances or their health when deciding when to retire while women quit work when they need to care for their spouse or want to spend more time with their families, research shows.