Robert Downey Jr discusses his parenting style

Downey Jr with wife Susan at the premiere of <i>The Avengers</i> last week. Look at that dottage!

Downey Jr with wife Susan at the premiere of The Avengers last week. Look at that dottage! Photo: Getty

As part of the deluge of publicity for his forthcoming Avengers movie, (which is getting rave reviews, by the way) Robert Downey Junior is sitting down to give a lot of interviews. In his most recent one with Esquire Magazine, Downey Jr, who will reprise the role of Iron Man for the movie, talks about his two month-old son, Exton Elias, he has with wife Susan Downey. (He also has another son, 18 year-old Indigo from a previous marriage).

A true story-teller, he knows how to weave a good narrative ...

So, he begins with the pros

 We had a bun in the oven, and we were about to have a kid. There was all this trepidation, all this projection, all this anticipation and goodwill and a good vibe about it. But what you're squeezing to the side — or what's in the glove box — is these thousands of forms of fear. And then he was born and they've all just kind of scattered now. It seems like he's always been here.


 And then leads into a con

 That anticipation and fear are going to come back. Am I going to know what to do with them? Does any new parent, even if you're not a first-time parent, ever really know what to do?

 Which ultimately leads into another pro –

 Only thing you have to do, the only requirement, if you can hack it, is to not transfer your own discomfort in the moment to this fresh soul, right? ... You got to be mindful. I don't want to be so confident in myself. It's that balance between being relaxed enough to not be communicating anxiety and present enough to not be creating the very thing that you were anxious about by being so relaxed — because I've seen that parenting style, too.

 Fist bumps to you, RDJ! And here we thought "fresh soul" was something Al Green did.

Via Esquire