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Cameron Diaz is happy, healthy and successful at the age of 41. She also still doesn't want children. Ever. And she’ll explain it very slowly and clearly if she has to.

Speaking with Esquire magazine, the actress said her forties had brought a self-assuredness she had not enjoyed as a younger woman. “It’s the best age,” she told Tom Chiarella. “That's when a woman knows how to work things, or she doesn't care about that anymore. You just stop being afraid. You don't worry about what men think. You just don't worry that time registers anything awful.”

It wasn’t long before the conversation turned to Diaz’s unmarried-childless status, as all interviews with female celebrities are wont to do. (And don't even get us started on the fact that the article begins with an exclamation: Cameron Diaz can whistle! Subtext: like a man).

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Happily child-free

Cameron Diaz: ""Having children changes your life drastically, and I really love my life. Children aren't the only things that bring you gratification and happiness, and it's easier to give life than to give love, so I don't know. That kind of change would have to be either very well thought out, or a total mistake — a real oops!" Photo: Steve Granitz

  • Cameron Diaz: ""Having children changes your life drastically, and I really love my life. Children aren't the only things that bring you gratification and happiness, and it's easier to give life than to give love, so I don't know. That kind of change would have to be either very well thought out, or a total mistake — a real oops!"
  • Eva Longoria: 'It's just not in my future.'
  • Oprah Winfrey: "I never had children, never even thought I would have children. Now I have 152 daughters; expecting 75 more next year. That is some type of gestation period!"
  • Actress Kim Cattrall: ""I realized that so much of the pressure I was feeling was from outside sources, and I knew I wasn't ready to take that step into motherhood. Being a biological mother just isn't part of my experience this time around."
  • Renee Zellweger: “Motherhood has never been an ambition."
  • Eva Mendes: "I don't wanna have kids... I love the little suckers; they're so cute, but I love sleep so much and I worry about everything."
  • Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi: ""You have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did. So it’s just going to be me and Ellen and no babies -- but we’re the best of friends and married life is blissful, it really is.”
  • Helen Mirren: "“I just want to be ‘me’. There is something wonderful about knowing I can do what I choose, work commitments notwithstanding, without encumbrance. I always did – and still do – value my freedom too highly.”
  • Chelsea Handler: " I don't want to have kids, and it's not a device to get attention or have conversations about it. I simply find children incredibly immature and, more often than not, dumb.”
  • Kylie Minogue: ""I never had the feeling I was made for a conventional marriage with a house in the suburbs"
  • Julia Gillard never got married and never had children, nor did she ever feel the need to justify these decisions.

“You’re rich… you’re beautiful… you don’t have children,” Chiarella said to her, suggesting her life, and career, might be easier as a result. Later, he writes that he had assumed “a reverent silence” might follow, “since most Americans seem to consider having children to be the holiest of holy creeds, the sacred mission of all women, the thing that many assume compels us all to happiness. But Diaz jumps on that.” 

And jump she did. While not having a baby might make things easier in some ways, Diaz explained patiently, her decision wasn't an easy one.

“I like protecting people, but I was never drawn to being a mother,” she said. “I have it much easier than any of them. That's just what it is. Doesn't mean life isn't sometimes hard. I'm just what I am. I work on what I am. Right now, I think, things are good for me. I've done a lot. And I don't care anymore.” 

Diaz reminds us the decision to not become a mother is deeply personal, whether you're choosing to do it in Hollywood or elsewhere.  While celebrities continue to be asked to defend their choices publicly, women everywhere are making the same decision based on all number of reasons, ranging from simply not feeling the urge or wanting to retain their independence, to inadequate maternity and paternity leave and a lack of affordable childcare. 

Cameron Diaz loves her life and knows it’s "because I don’t have children," fellow actress Eva Mendes enjoys a good night’s sleep too much, while for Eva Longoria having children is “just not in my future.” 

It really is as simple as that. So, let's let the mothering v child-free discussion gather dust like an old issue of Esquire and focus on more pressing matters, shall we? Like, what Diaz looks like in a near-transparent shirt, for example, or how amazing it is that she can whistle with her fingers.

Source: Jezebel

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